You’d be lying if you haven’t had at least one day where you just felt absolutely fed up with everything happening in the world. The constant stream of bad news, the death toll rising, friends losing jobs, you may be losing a job, businesses closing, and the complete division of opinions within the US….. it doesn’t take much to spiral down to a lower energy frequency. I have those days. Thankfully, I’m pretty good at avoiding them most of the time, but this week has been one of those “I give up”- type of weeks where nothing seems to be getting better. I canceled my summer trips. I feel so sad that I might not be able to explore outside of the US until next year. A lot of my hopes and plans for the future all involved travel or events which are on hold indefinitely. I had hoped this pandemic would bring out the best in people, yet I keep seeing the worst in so many.
But every day is a new day! Some days you are gonna just need to eat that bag of cookies and watch trash tv shows on Netflix. Take some time for yourself and let yourself wallow in the despair. What? Did I just say it was ok to be unhappy? Yep! You can’t experience the highs without the lows, so letting yourself embrace “the suck” from time to time will help you appreciate the good times even more! But when you get sick of the stress eating and hiding under the blankets, how do you start to move back to a more positive outlook? Let’s start by opening a journal and writing out all the things you feel. Yep, just put them out there. Get them all out, no matter how bad they are! Release them on to the page. You can burn the page or shred it afterward if it makes you feel better. Just let it out so it doesn’t keep swirling around and around in your mind. Big breakthroughs come when you realize that circumstances can’t be changed- ie. we can’t make this pandemic disappear, but we can control our thoughts about it. We can question how we will let it change us. We can remember that emotions come from our thoughts, and we can choose to change the thoughts that we are having. So today I remembered that I can choose not to worry about the future and instead I can focus on making today better.
Next, get moving. Do something to get your heart rate up- take a walk, run in place, do yoga, play with your dog, or anything you like to do that will get some of those happy hormones pumping in your brain. Call a friend. Make sure it’s a friend that will lift you up and not one that loves drama or they might just make you try to feel worse. (I wouldn’t recommend keeping too many drama queen/kings in your life in general) Use some affirmations; the more you repeat them, the more likely you will start to truly believe them. (You could try – I can overcome any challenge, I am attracting my highest good, or I am stronger than I realize.) Set them as a reminder on your phone and when it goes off, repeat it to yourself. Do something you love or try something new. Both of those will boost your happy hormones as well. I took a run with my dog in the rain. I hate running in the rain, but getting out of my comfort zone just felt right today. Finally, be grateful for something. You woke up today, there are a lot of people that didn’t, that’s something to be grateful for! You have this new day, so you can be grateful that you get to choose the thoughts that will guide you through it.
So to summarize – Some days are going to super suck. Right now you probably have more sucky days than usual. It’s ok to let the negative feelings flow for a bit. When you’re ready to click up the positivity dial again there are a few things that will help you get out of that funk. Those things are – write it out, remember that you control your thoughts, get moving, call a friend, repeat some affirmations, do something new or something that you love, and finally, be grateful for something.
Whatever kind of day you are having, just remember, we’re all suffering right now. But every day we get the chance to choose what kind of day it will be. Use my tips to help move out of the funk if that’s what you choose to do today. As always, feel free to reach out. Let me know how you are doing! I’m happy to be that friend you call when you need to talk to someone. Much love to you all!
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