Good and evil, love and hate, happy and sad, light and dark… they all seem like perfect opposites, but this is not quite true. The opposite of Light is not dark. Dark is merely the lack of light. So can we say hate is the absence of Love? Those who choose to hate often have a significant lack of love in their life. You rarely hear of a serious criminal who says they grew up in a loving and supportive family surrounded by a loving community. But let’s look at hate from a more relatable perspective.
“I hate my job.” “I hate being alone.” “I hate my body.” Some of these might be relatable to you. While we are often taught that we should never “hate” anything, the truth is that we use that word far more often than we care to admit. So if you hate your job, you are lacking a love for your job. I’m guilty of saying it from time to time. But I’ve learned that if you want to change something, the best thing you can do is learn to love it. Yeah, way easier said than done! But let’s look at the reasoning behind this.
Energy attracts like energy. With a brief study of metaphysics you will learn that we are all just a bunch of energy in space, and our energy vibrates. So similar to light waves or radio waves, we are each an energy vibration. You can “tune” your energy just like you would tune your radio to a certain frequency. So if you are tuning yourself to the frequency of hate, a much lower vibration, you are going to attract other people and situations that are vibrating at that same frequency. Ever known someone that seems to be in a constant drama spiral? Everything just seems to keep going wrong- perfect example of what I’m talking about. So until you can do something to raise your frequency, you are likely to keep getting more signs of why you hate something.
So, in our example of hating your job, how would you go about changing this? Step one, look for any positives and focus on those. Maybe you have someone at work that you like to talk to. Maybe the location of the office is convenient. Maybe you are really good at your job despite not liking it. Focus as much as you can on the positives. Step two, do everything you can to love that job. Do your very best work, go in and give it your very best. You have to shake up that energy in order to attract a better job. Love that this job challenged you; love that you learned what job you never want to do again. Step three, take action to decide if you will learn to love the job you have or start looking for a new one. Maybe you start looking at other jobs. Maybe you talk to people in other careers. Maybe you write a list of all the qualities you want in your dream job. I promise you that these three steps are going to help you move from hate to love. It can be a slow process. Maybe today you hate your job and tomorrow you despise it. Then the next day you really dislike it, and the following day it’s annoying. Each day you are adjusting that vibration dial one step closer to love.
I applied these steps and went from a farmer to a marketing professional. I do love being a farmer (I raise llamas), but it wasn’t a career and left me feeling very isolated. So each day when I would go out to clean out the barn I would use that time to focus on love. I loved the animals; I didn’t love shoveling poop. I did the very best job cleaning out a stall and walked away feeling proud of the work I had done. Eventually I stumbled upon an opportunity to be a promotional model. All of a sudden I was being paid to talk to people, and it was different every week. It challenged me, and I was really good at it. It eventually led me to a full time job with a large marketing company. I still remember those days when I learned to love sweeping the dust and eventually moved my energy to a frequency that attracted a new and wonderful possibility.
What are you hating? How can you adjust that feeling one step closer to love?
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